5 important things a Nigerian woman must consider before raising a child alone

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Deciding to keep and raise a baby without the support of a partner is a deeply personal decision, and it comes with many challenges, especially in Nigeria. While it’s possible to successfully raise a child alone, the reality can be emotionally, financially, and socially demanding.

Here are five key things every Nigerian woman should carefully consider before taking this bold step.

1. Financial stability

Raising a child is expensive, even in the most supportive environments. In Nigeria, where access to affordable healthcare, education, and basic necessities can be limited, the financial burden can be overwhelming. Think about your current financial situation: Do you have a stable income? Will you be able to afford medical bills, school fees, and other child-related expenses on your own?

Without a partner’s contribution, everything from baby food to diapers becomes your responsibility. Long-term, the cost of education, clothing, and healthcare adds up. Creating a financial plan, having savings, and possibly seeking external financial support—whether through family, friends, or government programs—can make this journey more manageable.

2. Support system

Raising a child without a partner’s help means you’ll need a strong support system from others. This might include family members, close friends, or even professional networks. In Nigerian society, where extended family structures often play a key role, this can be a lifesaver.

Consider who you can rely on when you need a break or when you need help with child care. Emotional support is also crucial because being a single parent can be lonely and exhausting. Make sure you’re surrounded by people who will uplift you, offer advice, and help ease the burdens that come with parenthood.

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3. Social and cultural stigma

Single motherhood in Nigeria often carries a certain social stigma, especially when it comes to how others perceive you. While this is slowly changing, it’s important to be prepared for the potential judgment from your community, workplace, and even extended family. Many Nigerian women face criticism for raising a child alone, and the lack of a father figure may be scrutinized.

You need to ask yourself: Can you handle the pressure? Are you emotionally ready to deal with what people might say? It’s not easy to be strong all the time, but understanding that your decision is for your child’s and your own well-being will help you face these challenges with confidence. Surround yourself with positive, non-judgmental people who respect your choices.

4. Time management

Being a single mother means you are juggling everything by yourself. Parenting is time-consuming, and without someone to share responsibilities, you will have to manage work, household chores, and child-rearing all on your own. This requires excellent time management skills.

Ask yourself if your current lifestyle and work schedule allow you enough time for a baby. Will you be able to balance your personal needs with your child’s needs? Consider whether you’ll need to change your career path, reduce your working hours, or hire help. Finding a way to manage your time effectively will be key to preventing burnout and ensuring that your child gets the attention and care they need.

5. Emotional readiness

Raising a child alone can be emotionally demanding. It’s essential to check in with yourself and assess whether you’re emotionally ready to face the challenges ahead. Parenting involves sleepless nights, endless worries, and a lot of sacrifices. Doing it without a partner means that you may feel overwhelmed, lonely, or even resentful at times.

It’s important to ask yourself if you’re in the right mental and emotional space to give a child the love and care they deserve. It may also be worth considering therapy or counseling to prepare yourself for the emotional ups and downs that come with single parenting. If you’re not fully ready, it’s okay to seek help and guidance before moving forward.