Coin d’amour:- Let your woman win the argument even when you’re right

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So long, Coin d’ amour ! It is another edition of Coin d’amour- the love corner. Today, I present to you a controversial idea that most men might not want to accept but it works wonders.

Yes, you heard me well. Let your woman win the argument even when you are right. It seems like an absurd thing to do but as a man you play the bigger person card when you do that. It is no gainsaying that arguments are inevitable in a relationship. But what we do to curb and dissolve them is all that actually matters.

Women are emotionally vulnerable and sometimes all they need you to do in an argument is to hear them out. Men tend to defend themselves whenever confronted with something. You really do not have to explain yourself- just take responsibility for the blame. I know that your ego might want to surface but stay calm because the whole situation is about to end up in your favor if you do.

How to let your woman win the arguments

Women want to be heard, felt and seen. Your woman wants to know that you care about what she feels and thinks. You need to acknowledge what she is saying. Even if she might be wrong, make her feel like you have noted what she is saying before you start to reach a compromise.

Do not “ rubbish” her points. Criticise them lovingly and appreciate her views. Instead of saying her points are not “valid”, say you have noted them. Value her opinions because they are what she is feeling.

Once she accuses you of something whether guilty or not, do not reply in defiance. In other words, you are just saying she is wrong or she is cooking something up. Acknowledge your wrongs and promise to make them right.

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“Know her point of view and give reassuring remarks to them and not criticize them. Note, let your appreciations come before criticisms”

During arguments, it might not too be too easy to control your temperament. But man over your emotions and desist from yelling and raising your voice at her. Yelling might just be one step away from emotional abuse. Keep your calm or cool. If the situation is getting too intense and your woman is pouring out her emotions all at once at you, you can take a breather or space. Just don’t anything that would probably hurt her in any way. Man your temper.

Violence is not an option with your lover. Do not heed to any form of violence to control the situation. Seek to be calm and controlled. Your attitude will surely take a toll on your woman and she might keep her cool sooner than you expect.

To ease the tension during these moments. You can try to approach the situation in a loving manner. Love is kind and patient. Pull her into your embrace and speak reassuring words to her. Offer her kind gestures and if gifting is her love language, then you know what to do. Arguments are not about winning alone – the point being raised must be noted.

If you note these points during arguments, your woman will reduce arguing with you. Your calmness will take care of the situation and she would find you more loving than she ever did. In turn, you’ll find her doing the same for you.

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