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People need to connect to one another. Justin Bieber was right in the lyrics of Somebody, “Everybody needs somebody”.
That desiring need to be someone’s favorite person itches that we go all out to seek solace in someone. And besides it is in our makeup to depend on each other because “man is not meant to be alone”.
You are in a relationship and for the upteenth time, you’re glad that you have someone in your safe space. Someone you can run to, someone who knows all about you, someone you open up to naturally- that means ,by dictates of your relationship ,you are obliged to tell your partner everything.
It is all fun and romantic until you start to feel like an open book to the person. At first, it is sweet but it gets to a point, you start to crave privacy but at that time it might seem unfair to demand for one.
Let me tell you that you are not alone with that. It happens to people from one point to the other. Sometimes, we want to keep to ourselves, be in our own space. We strive for privacy from the person we have made ourselves an open book to. But how can we demand for privacy without making it seem like we are closing up to the people we love?
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The strife for privacy in a romantic relationship
Once you’re in a romantic relationship, it feels like you don’t have your space to yourself especially when you’re always in proximity to your partner. You feel like they are in your space everytime. And sometimes, this might transition from being romantic to being annoying before you know it. You would always need some time to yourself.
It is okay to communicate that to your partner but you always have to do it the right way. You don’t want to make your partner feel as if they are not needed or something. The truth of it is that you and your partner will have to do this in turn for each other.
Try to communicate your feelings to your partner. Do not just go all mute on them without giving them a heads up at first. If you constantly communicate this, your partner in no time might understand.
But the bliss of this is just to explain the whole situation to your partner at your convenience. Tell them how you feel and trust me after “ taking a privacy break” , you might find yourself pouring out your mind to them again. It is a cycle!
Your partner needs their privacy, give them space
It is natural for one to demand space from people especially if you are introverted. Do not find it offensive when your partner withdraws from you. Some people say but we are partners, I ought to know everything that is going on with them. Yes, that’s true. You should know the basic things about them. But when it comes to life happenings, some people might need time to process things before they can tell about every slightest thing that goes on with them.
Out of the blues, your partner can ask you for space. If you can not direct this request to a previous fight or quarrel, do not feel responsible for it. Your partner might need to figure things out alone. I know you ought to do things together but you are being together too by supporting their choice.
There are sometimes people who are plunged into mental headspaces of solitude. Especially for introverts, they go back to their default mode, they become non-telling. Give them space, they will grow out of their shell.
Mind you, if your partner seems to be unburdening their issues on you constantly, do not make them feel like they are telling a lot. Cherish the fact that they find you trustworthy to listen to them and even give them pieces of advice.
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