Having less ego can improve your relationship and increase emotional well-being

Ego is the part of our mind that shapes our sense of self and how we view ourselves in relation to others. It’s like the “I” or “me” that we identify with. For example, when someone praises us and we feel a sense of pride, that is our ego being boosted. Conversely, when someone criticizes us and we feel defensive or hurt, that’s our ego feeling threatened.

While the ego is a natural part of being human, it can also lead to negative behaviors or attitudes if it becomes too dominant. Balancing the ego involves finding a healthy sense of self-worth and identity while also being aware of and considerate of others.

Caring less about your ego does not mean abandoning healthy self-esteem or self-respect.

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When you prioritize genuine connections over ego-driven desires, your relationships can flourish. By letting go of the need to always be right or in control, you become more open to understanding others’ perspectives, resolving conflicts amicably, and nurturing healthier and more fulfilling relationships.

In a romantic relationship, for instance, disagreements and conflicts are inevitable. If your ego is dominant, you may always want to be right and have control over the situation. This can lead to arguments, defensiveness, and a breakdown in communication.

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But, if you prioritize genuine connections over ego-driven desires, you approach the relationship with a different mindset. Instead of trying to prove yourself right, you focus on understanding your partner’s perspective and finding common ground. You let go of the need to be in control and foster a more cooperative and empathetic approach.

Also, ego often fuels negative emotions such as anger, jealousy, and resentment. I’ve always told people that they need to know, at times, that it’s not only about them. By caring less about your ego, you reduce attachment to these negative emotions and experience greater emotional well-being.

For example, you are working on a team project at work, and one of your colleagues criticizes your ideas during a meeting. If your ego is strongly attached to being right or seeking approval, you might immediately feel anger or defensiveness. You might start to resent your colleague and harbor negative emotions towards them.

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However, if you care less about your ego and focus more on the project’s success and open collaboration, you may respond differently. Instead of reacting defensively, you take a step back and consider the feedback objectively. You understand that the criticism is not a personal attack but an opportunity to improve the project.

You become less reactive to criticism, judgment, or other triggers, which can lead to more peace of mind and emotional stability.