The entitlement mentality most Nigerian women have these days

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The entitlement mentality most Nigerian ladies have I’ll be so biased if I don’t address this mentality Nigerian ladies harbor. Lately, I hear women or ladies of employable age make small talk about how they deserve monetary gains from men just because they are beautiful. How, ma?

If a man pays you for being beautiful, will you also pay a man for being handsome? Come, let’s reason together. As a woman, when I hear a clique of ladies insulting a man just because the first time he approaches them, he doesn’t spoil them with monetary gains, I consider them short- witted.

First of all, girls and ladies who talk like this most times cannot produce a thousand of their own. They mostly fend for themselves on money from their different suitors.You hear stuff like ‘ if you do not press money as a man, clear’. Aunty, you too clear.

Talks like ,” I want to marry a rich man, yenyenyen”. Aunty, are you rich too? You can’t attract what you are not. You’re not rich , you’re not industrious, you’re just there

Any man who is not your father or brother is not obliged to take care of you

He’s not your father nor your husband to carry all your needs on his head. He cannot ask if you have eaten in peace. You expect him to send you money because you have just told you have not eaten. Before he approached you, you were not starving. As a woman, I get irritated by unintelligible talks like this which displays entitlement mentality.

Think of it as this, if a man spends on every woman who has told him she has not eaten, do you think he’ll be able to afford his basic needs? If you need to be taken care of, get yourself a boyfriend or better still a husband because only with the marital status is he fully obliged to take of yourself. Even this is not an option, just open a Go Fund Me account.

The entitlement mentality most Nigerian women have has reduced their status and reputation as mere vessels to be spent on. Men gradually see women as a liability not even an investment. Yes,it is important a man spoils you only if you’re his daughter, wife or fiancée.

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Entitlement mentality reduces men’s perception of women to mere liability

The irony of this is that women who want men to always spoil them are so covetous that they don’t settle with one man. You want a man to give you princess treatment on the first date and whereas you fully know that you don’t have intentions to date him. Your plan is to eat his steak and stake out for another date. That is pure wickedness.

Attitude like this is what reduces the worth of women in the sight of men. As a woman, you’re not a Christmas chicken that needs to be fattened up before Christmas. You go for a first date, don’t expect too much. Better still if you know you can date the guy, don’t even let him waste his money on the first date. The country is too hard for that.

You see women ranting on X on how a guy bought them something “so little” for the first date. Oh, you were expecting the whole world on your plate. You’re not a glutton now. No man is obliged to take of you except he’s your father or husband even your brother has to do it out of sheer responsibility.

You are your own financial saviour, get something doing

Don’t shift your burden on somebody’s son because you’re simply just existing. If you want to be paid for your beauty, go into modelling. You go on a date with a guy with your money in your purse. It is not time to buy what you know you can’t afford. You’re not that hungry. Without that date, you would have eaten somewhere. Don’t rub somebody’s son with exorbitant date expenses knowing fully well that you won’t accept his proposal.

Yes, you should be appreciated for being beautiful. You’re not entitled to it from other men. Accept the complement without expecting monetary gains. It is even so ridiculous that ladies now think if a random man appreciates their beauty, he has to credit them for them to maintain their beauty.

Ladies, have this financial independence mentality. Work hard for yourself. Your goal in life is not to marry a rich man that’ll carry up your financial responsibility. Have tangible financial resources. What you bring to the table should not be how to spend a man’s money but how to make some.

It is even backward in this age to expect a man to be your financial saviour when women are doing big things all different niches of life. Some women fall into the hands of dubious men because of they are after is monetary gains.

If you think a man is obliged to take care of you because of your body or beauty, it is peak foolery. He can get all this from sex workers without no obligation than to pay for their service.

Dear Nigerian ladies, wisen up. Let this reputation of “collect syndrome” dissipate. I don’t wish to be associated with it because I know better than that.