Coin d’amour : Why you should not ring your wedding bells

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Let me tell you something – a piece of advice maybe. It is not compulsory that wedding bells should ring. In this sense, this means you don’t have to spread the news of your wedding ceremony around. A wedding ceremony is celebration of a sacred union and not a town hall meeting. It’s not the time to start contacting distant relatives you’ve never spoken to for years.

My mum told me that she regrets spending a lot on her wedding ceremony. She stated that the money she spent on getting a cow could have gotten her hectares of land the year she got married.

I get you want to rub it in the face of aunties that you’re getting married. Why not invest in good photography and videography to make them wish they were there? That’s more satisfying. After the wedding, it’s only you and your spouse that is left to navigate life and your financial journey.

There is a jest people make about couples who spend money on extravagant weddings only to start buying foodstuffs in the smallest units available by the next week. Plan a small and intimate wedding. Most times, the expenses of weddings are a lot because of so many mouths to feed.

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How to spend less on your wedding ceremony

• Invest more in creating a cozy wedding environment where you and your spouse will find ethereal for your special day

• Desist from aso ebi. This is one gimmick that enlarges the wedding budget. Instead of this, choose a theme or colour for people to dress to.

• Invest in honeymoon and vacation instead of Cinderella wedding. Your honeymoon and vacation holds more memory and companionship. It’s for you and your spouse, why not invest in it to make it surreal.

• Invite only people that matter and restrict your guest list. If you don’t want someone at your wedding, please don’t invite them. Print access codes or generate QR codes for your selected attendees alone

• Do not span your wedding ceremony for more than a day. This is another way you can cut spendings. Do all your wedding ceremony in a day, both traditional wedding ceremony and white wedding as the case maybe.

• Get professional servers to handle serving of guests in order to eliminate monopoly of food amongst guests. It is advisable you don’t allow a relative or family member to be in charge of food, e get why! You don’t want to be on the edge because food or drinks have finished.

• Invesr more on finger foods and confectionaries. People get filled from eating desserts and confectionaries. You might want to curb people’s appetite by making this available. Yes, there will be substantial meals but you’ll agree with me five portions of small chops is cheaper than five portions of amala and ewedu.

It is said that most couples’ conflict has one of the root cause as money. A wedding ceremony is just the first step in marriage and not the only step. Do well to invest more in your marital journey and not the rite. It doesn’t mean you are broke if you cut your wedding costs , it just means you’re a financial literate.