Ladies, here are 3 types of men you must avoid

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In relationships, choosing the right partner is crucial for your peace, happiness, and personal growth. While love and attraction are important, they shouldn’t blind you to red flags that can destroy your life and peace of mind. This is especially true in Nigeria, where cultural pressures sometimes make women stay in relationships that harm them. To help you make better decisions, here are three kinds of men you should avoid.

1. Men who physically abuse you (or any other kind of abuse)

Ladies, never ignore abuse in any form—physical, emotional, or verbal. A man who hits you doesn’t love you. Abuse goes beyond physical harm; it includes men who insult you, break your self-esteem, or control every aspect of your life. In Nigeria, some people excuse such behavior with sayings like, “That’s how men are,” or “Marriage is endurance.” But enduring abuse is not love; it’s a fast track to losing yourself.

Remember, abuse doesn’t start big—it could be something as “small” as a slap during an argument or belittling your efforts in public. If you stay, it often escalates. A man who abuses you is showing you his true nature. Don’t wait for him to change—leave before it’s too late.

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2. Men who womanize

A man who can’t stay faithful will only bring heartbreak. Womanizing isn’t just about cheating; it’s about disrespecting you and the relationship. In Nigeria, some men excuse this behavior, saying, “Men are polygamous by nature.” Ladies, don’t fall for that narrative. African men are not naturally polygamous.

If a man can’t commit to you alone, he will expose you to emotional pain, humiliation, and even health risks. Imagine worrying every day about who he’s with or what he might bring into your relationship. Faithfulness is a basic requirement for trust, and without it, a relationship cannot thrive.

If you notice a pattern of flirting, inappropriate conversations with other women, or outright cheating, take it as a sign to walk away. Don’t waste your time trying to fix someone who doesn’t respect you enough to stay loyal.

3. Men who drink excessive alcohol

While there’s nothing wrong with having an occasional drink, excessive drinking is a major red flag. A man who drinks too much may struggle to control his emotions or actions. He could waste money meant for family needs, become aggressive, or even harm himself and others.

In Nigeria, where economic struggles are already tough, dealing with a man who spends all his money on alcohol can be draining. Beyond the financial implications, excessive alcohol often leads to neglect, poor decision-making, and sometimes abuse. Ask yourself if you’re ready to spend your life worrying about a man who prioritizes alcohol over you or his responsibilities.

My final thoughts

Ladies, your peace of mind and happiness should never be compromised for any relationship. A good man will treat you with love, respect, and dignity. Don’t settle for anyone who brings you pain, uncertainty, or fear.

Pay attention to these red flags early, and don’t make excuses for them. You deserve a partner who uplifts you, not someone who drags you down. If you find yourself with any of these kinds of men, remember: walking away isn’t weakness; it’s choosing yourself.