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Where does true love go? That’s if it ever existed.
This article on true love was inspired by a conversation I had with my sister’s mother-in-law a couple of days ago.
I was forced to ask her, how come she was able to stay married for almost four decades, how did she stay true to her husband, what were the elements that kept her together with her husband (my sister’s father-in-law) for so long.
Growing up, I’ve always been a sucker for love, someone who enjoys watching romantic movies and television shows that ended with ‘happy endings’.
I was a fan of books such as Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs, Cinderella, Rapunzel, I was deep into fairytale stories.
At age 16, I summoned the courage to shoot my shot, with the aid of two of my closest friends who served as my wingmen, I was able to disclose my intention to my crush, Danielle who eventually became my first girlfriend.
This was immediately after taking the Senior Secondary School Certificate Examination (SSCE), I wasn’t a shy person, albeit, when it comes to the matter of the heart, I needed all the help that I can get.
Fortunately, I got the girl.
Danielle and I became love birds, we did almost everything together, great times to say the least. I mean at 16, we were just happy to be in each others arms, we went everywhere together, from cinemas to dinner dates, etc.
As a matter of fact, she was my date for the Valedictory Service (VS) ceremony, I would say this was one of the most heartwarming moments of my life. I wish it would go on forever, unfortunately, life wasn’t designed that way.
Good things indeed do come to an end and best friends unfortunately do transition into strangers. Ouch! The heartbreak.
Almost a year into our affair, Danielle’s countenance towards me began to change; she no longer picked my calls and even when she did, she sounded apathetic on the other side of the world and was also insinuating she wanted me to get off the phone early.
I became a bug, simply put, I was seen as a thorn in her flesh. Insane, isn’t it? I used to be her one and only true love, the one in whom I defined as my love and solace.
A beautiful soul where I find warmth, sadly, I no longer belong here as far as I can see.As the days transitioned, I began to question if love is really worth it; why waste your emotions and time on what is fickle, ephemeral and more-often-than-not futile.
Airing my grievances to my sister’s mother-in-law, I was schooled and lectured. She taught me several things about life; perspective, choice and sacrifice.
Here is how to view true love from the aforementioned views to love:
Perspective
According to my sister’s mother-in-law, she mentioned that love is predominantly about perspective. That is, it’s more about your views, acceptance of what you want to believe and achieve from your partner or the relationship in itself.
Choice
Humans will always settle for what they they think they deserve. They will always make excuses for people’s poor characteristics, being in love or a relationship is a choice.
If someone doesn’t want you, there is little to nothing that you can do about it. It’s disheartening that someone whom you truly cherish let you go, it’s one of those realities you must accept in adulthood.People fall out of love, it’s part of life, we live and we learn.
Sacrifice
Love is a sacrifice, whoever wants to be in love must be prepared to put in the work.
That is, be ready to roll up your sleeves and lift the heavy duties during the course of the relationship.
In the end, I hope everyone finds true love. The type of love that is comforting and pure, cheers to more love.
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