International Men’s Day 2024: How to be a positive male role model in Nigeria

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Today, November 19, is International Men’s Day, a time to celebrate the positive value men bring to families, communities, and the world at large. This year’s theme, “Positive Male Role Models,” is a reminder to appreciate the men in our lives and encourage others to step into this role.

As a Nigerian, I believe this theme couldn’t be more relevant, especially considering the challenges we face in our society. It’s a call for men to not only influence the boys and young men around them but to actively stand for justice and make our communities better for everyone—men and women alike.

Being a positive male role model in Nigeria

When I think about what it means to be a positive male role model, I don’t just see it as teaching boys how to be men. It’s about showing them how to be good people. It’s about modeling respect, kindness, integrity, and courage. Nigeria has no shortage of challenges, but we also have plenty of opportunities to rise above them and be examples of what is possible.

As men, our influence often starts at home. Being a loving father, a present brother, and a supportive husband sends a message to boys that strength isn’t just about physical power—it’s about emotional stability, understanding, and being dependable.

But this influence shouldn’t end at home. In our communities, we should stand up for what is right, even when it’s inconvenient. For example, calling out harmful behaviors like domestic violence or gender discrimination isn’t just a women’s fight—it’s ours too. As men, when we advocate for the rights and dignity of women and girls, we are teaching younger generations that equality and fairness are not just ideals; they are necessities for a healthy society.

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Stand up against every form of injustice

Being a positive role model means actively standing against injustice, whether it directly affects us or not. We see too many cases of abuse, harassment, and unfair treatment, especially against women and children, in our society. Staying silent only makes us complicit.

Suppose a boy sees his father or uncle defend a woman being mistreated or speak out against unfair practices in the workplace. In that case, he learns that courage is not limited to physical confrontation. It’s in doing the right thing, even when it’s unpopular.

Men can advocate for justice in small but impactful ways:

1. In our workplaces: Speak up if women are denied opportunities or unfairly treated. Mentor young women the same way you mentor young men.
2. In schools: Volunteer to speak to boys about respect and equality. Partner with teachers to promote positive behavior among students.
3. In public spaces: Call out street harassment or any form of bullying you witness.
4. At home: Teach your sons and nephews to respect boundaries and value others for who they are, not just what they can offer.

Prioritize your mental health

Being a role model is not just about what we do for others; it’s also about taking care of ourselves. Nigerian men often carry the weight of societal expectations—to provide, to protect, to always be strong. But I want to remind every man reading this: you are not a machine. You are human, and you need rest.

I’ve seen men around me burn out because they never took the time to unwind. As a man, it’s okay to admit you’re tired. It’s okay to ask for help. Prioritize your mental health by talking to someone you trust, whether it’s a friend, a family member, or a professional counselor. Take breaks, engage in hobbies, and spend time with people who lift your spirits. A healthy mind allows you to be a more effective role model.

To the women in our lives

I believe International Men’s Day isn’t just for men; it’s for everyone. Women, you play a critical role in supporting the men around you. Encourage them when they do the right thing, and hold them accountable when they falter. Positive male role models often thrive when they feel appreciated and understood.

My final words

To all the men in Nigeria, let’s make this theme personal. Whether you’re a father, brother, teacher, mentor, or friend, ask yourself: what legacy am I leaving behind? Let’s show the boys around us that being a man is about more than strength and dominance—it’s about being a force for good.

Together, we can create a future where Nigerian men are not only respected but celebrated for their positive impact on the world. It starts with each of us. Happy International Men’s Day!